|MEMBER SINCE 2002
|"....Nothing makes us so lonely as our secrets."
especially our secrets from ourselves......
So, if there were a ''clear and present danger'', anyone would
feel a sense of fear. The fear would be regarded as a necessary
and appropriate reaction to a seemingly hostile or dangerous
situation. Thoughts of danger, of dread, and possible actions for
survival would occupy the thinking while emotions would range
from concern to panic. The body responds immediately with
stages of excitement; pounding heart, shallow, rapid breathing,
muscle tension or flaccidity, cold sweat, etc. Sensations range
many descriptions, such as ''skin crawling'', "blood running cold'',
fainting, shuddering, tense, weak, etc. The familiar "fight or flight
reaction" feels like the urge to take action, "either fight like hell or
run like hell". Adrenalin in the bloodstream supplies tremendous
energy for action. If you can't run, fight. If you can't fight run. What
if neither choice is possible?
There's a third reaction, more recently described as "freezing", in
which the responder ''spaces out'', ''goes numb'', and otherwise
''dissociates'. This is often referred to as ''going into shock''.
Without suitable support, people often go into shock and never
come out, yet they carry on their routine as necessary.
Anxiety is the same as fear except there is no clear or present
danger. Often, there's nothing present to worry about at all. A
"panic attack" is an intense, sudden anxiety episode that occurs
in the absence of any danger. Anxiety can also be general,
attaching itself to any minor concern of the moment in a major
way. The body responds to the inappropriate feeling of
nonexistent danger as though there were a real danger.
Why, then, would there be a fear response without danger? The
answer is that there is a perceived danger, but not in the
environment, but in the subconscious mind. There's a feeling
and associated thoughts held just out of awareness that
periodically threaten to be felt, or come to awareness. Grief, for
example, is an emotion that many people have conditioned
themselves to avoid. It's possible to be terrified of experiencing
such a feeling, and the internal, emotional world is unsafe. The
irony is that the original experience that caused the fear has
already been survived. Anxiety, then, is an alerting to an obsolete
fear, associated to an old event, that has long since outlived its
Have a nice day
We often react to physical or emotional trauma by going ''into shock''. Especially as children at
the age when we believe in Santa Claus, and the world is magic and everything seems so
personal, trauma can be so overwhelming that we simply carry on with our lives without coming
out of shock. We remain numb, emotionally blunted, inexpressive except when over-reactive.
Most emotions are blunted except anxiety. Anxiety is thus a ''signal emotion'', alerting the
experiencer that other, perhaps frightening emotions are on the move from just out of
awareness and demanding to be felt.
".....Simply defined, dissociation means that the normal connections
between thoughts, feelings, sensations behaviors and images are
broken; things that normally go together are separated. Elements of
traumatic events are isolated from each other. Another form of
dissociation involves separated ego states, [like personalities]
which contain distinct affective states associated with traumatic
events. Yet a third form of dissociation that occurs during traumatic
events consists of distancing oneself from the actual experience by
dissociating from one's bodily experience......out of body
experienes....unreality and depersonalization....disorientation.
Marianne Eckberg, Victims of Cruelty
Freezing and Shock
".....Finally, the animal enters a state of shock, which involves ''freezing", and collapse into tonic
immobility. Immobility is a mechanism an organism uses to shut itself down when escape is
impossible. The last ditch stand involves an analgesic response and dissociation. Internally, the
animal is physiologically highly activated; externally, there is no movement. Sympathetic and
parasympathetic nervous systems are activated simultaneously."
Marianne Eckberg, Victimes of Cruelty
".....To give up one's naiveté and reorganize one's
consciousness to incorporate the knowledge of
such horror in the world is challenging at best and
may feel devastating to some. It interferes with
one's assumptions of personal invulnerability and
of the world as meaningful and comprehensible.
To do this work requires knowing that humans have
the capacity for the utmost evil. Marianne Eckberg
......"Following a traumatic event, dissociative phenomena can continue for years or even arise
for the first time years later. They may be identified by numbing, flashbacks,
depersonalization, partial or complete amnesia, "out-of-body" experiences, inability to feel
emotion, unexplained "irrational" behaviors (ocd), and emotional reactions that seem to have no
basis in reality. It is likely that some form of dissociation is fueling every case of PTS and PTSD."
Babette Rothschild, The Body Remembers
"Your life is carved by patterns and forces playing far beyond your awareness and intention. At night, your dreams are
spun without volition. During the day, you think and act in ways that are often contrary to what you intend. Seemingly
random meetings and events can change the course of your entire life. Somehow, it all hangs together, but it's tough
to see the pattern that connects all the aspects of your life."
David Deida, Blue Truth
Really prove that anxiety can be stopped in the moment. Manipulate the internal dialog, the internal images, and the somatic reactions.
1-10. Restore the critical factor. Switch from problem state to resource state.
1. Rate 1-10. Attention narrows with fear. Get her to broaden her peripheral vision to notice visuals at the edges of her vision. Repeat. Rate 1-10.
2. Rate 1-10. Recite 5 colors she sees, 5 sounds she hears, and 5 textures she feels. Rate 1-10.
3. Rate 1-10. She talks to me about it while passing an apple, ball, from one hand to another. Rate 1-10.
4. Rate 1-10. Breathe from your heart. Rate 1-10
5. Rate 1-10. Emotional Freedom Technique. Follow what I do and repeat after me; “Even though I have this problem with anxiety, I completely and lovingly
accept myself as a worthy human being.” Rate 1-10.
6. Rate 1-10. Backward Spin; Imagine or identify the direction that anxiety moves through the body. Body reaction/language. Demonstrate with hands motion.
Imagine fear spinning in front. Imagine reversing the spin and demonstrate. Tell her to laugh inappropriately, really inappropriately. Rate 1-10.
7. Rate 1-10. Say the ‘’trigger statement’’ that says why/how upset you are, e.g. “I can’t…..” Say it 5 times slower. Good. Five times slower again. Good. Even
slower. Rate 1-10.
8. Ross Jefferies technique;
Tune into the anxiety, rate 1-10, show where with hands. Don’t talk to self about it or fight it, but just notice it. Every 10 seconds, tell me ‘’same’’ or ‘’changing’’.
Good, in what way did it change? Bring it back, feel it again, to the area that’s the sharpest. Bring your attention to the very border of the feeling. Don’t relax the
tension but soften the space outside the border of the tense physical feeling, the very EDGE of the feeling, every 10 seconds same or changing? Scale of 1-10,
before and now? Tense up again, talk to self about how bad, 1-10?